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Anonymous said: Help, I'm bisexual and I'm terrified to come out to certain people: especially my mom, and a couple of my friends. I have this rainbow necklace and one of my friends treats me differently when I wear it. I have a couple years left until college, and I really don't want to spend them hiding but I don't know what to do. This is who I am, but.

I said:

if that is who you are, then people will need to accept that and im sure they will. I know it must be a really scary thing but your sexuality does not define who you are as a person and doesn’t change who you are either. You will still be loved and cared for the same by your friends and family. Your mom is your mom, she will love you no matter what. As for friends, if they judge you or treat you differently, they aren’t very good people or friends and you shouldn’t have someone like that in your life. I think coming out will take a huge weight off your shoulder and will eventually be the best thing for you.

-Zoe

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Anonymous said: Anyone on? Need some advice

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on! hit us up :)

- cindy

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Anonymous said: I'm sorry to bother your lovely self, but lately my best friend has been completely ignoring me. He says he doesn't have the time to spend with me, yet he hangs out with a bunch of other people. I want to not care about it, cause why care about people who doesn't care about you? But it's so hard since he's been my friend for 12 years & I've always imagined all the fun about the future to be experienced together with him. Any advice on how to fix this? Love // Sebastién

I said:

its absolutely fine! you’re welcome to continue asking us questions if you want! 

I understand what you’re trying to say as this is happened to me a while back. My friend and I have known each other since year 3 which is like 9 years ago and she hasn’t been talking to me recently, the last time we spoke was like half a year ago. Maybe there is something that he may have misunderstood about you? I suggest having another chat with him and asking if everything is alright, because maybe he misunderstood something regarding you causing him to ignore you. The best advice i could give is having another talk with him because only having conversations can mend a relationship back together regardless of the matter. Feel free to ask anymore questions and best of luck! 

- Cindy

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Anonymous said: I just missed out on the man of my life, he cared about me a lot and loved me too but I just said no to him. I feel so bad

I said:

if thats how you feel then stick by your decision. if you regret your decision and are questioning it then maybe you should think about it again.

-Zoe

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Anonymous said: I feel like I'm in love with this long distance girl but sometimes she disappears for a while and I also don't wanna be gay but for some reason she's special

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im deeply sorry for responding to this message so late. I havent been on tumblr for a while due to studies. Long distance relationships actually work. My ex and I had a long distance relationship for 3 years and I have been really happy and have enjoyed those 3 years. However, we broke up due to studies. i guess, if you guys are really faithful to each other i dont see why there would be a problem? but in terms of seeing each other that  is kinda a problem but not major. 

- Cindy 

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Anonymous said: So, I've liked this guy ever since I was a freshmen in high school. Now, it's a our senior year and I find out he likes me. He was always flirty with me and I was always embarrassed to show him my feelings partly because he would only tell others what he felt and never me. Mind you he had a girlfriend all throughout this. Recently, we got into a fight because he wanted to kiss me and I wasn't ready and because he wasn't single. We've been fighting a lot, how can I fix things quickly?

I said:

good on you for not kissing him back since he has a girlfriend, big respect for that! I think you should just be completely honest with him, tell him exactly how you feel and see what happens from there. If you only want to be friends with him, you need to tell him that straight up and be completely honest with him or he may be getting mixed signals, just remember, he has a girlfriend so try and not hurt their relationship but i think you just need to be honest with him.

-Zoe

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Anonymous said: How do you know if you're a good kisser? Or a good hook up?

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you can’t really know unless someone tells you that you’re.

-Zoe

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Anonymous said: How can you tell a guy is jealous? I was with a group and people and was talking about another guy and James the guy I like kept bringing him up. What does that mean.

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Sounds like he was testing you about him. To like see what you would say about him or to show any signs that you look the guy he kept bringing up.

-Zoe

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Anonymous said: Haha no i didnt travel just ti get him something, i left for a vacation with my family but i want to get him something. I dont have aby pictures of us towgher, i lost everything on my phone and i cant get them back. Anyother ideas? Thank you for helping anyways. I love u so much ok

I said:

ohhh HAHAHA i thought you went there just to get him something and i was like damn you must love him! HAHAH my bad! hmm, thats unfortunate! what about… a bracelet? i mean im not trying to be hipster but most guys were braided bracelets that carries a special meaning in it? or my boyfriend brought me heaps of plushes so that when i see them i think of him maybe you do that? however, since his a guy it might be a bit tricky! a phone case? a necklace? :) xx

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Anonymous said: If I ask for advice not anonymously, will you not post it, just reply?

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sure :) x

- cindy 

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Anonymous said: Okay so there's this guy i love, and he loves me too, he is like my bf, but he isnt. I travelled to dubai, and i want to get him something. He wants something that reminds him of me. But what should i Get? Idk what he would like omg

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dubai just to get him something? damn you must love him alot HAHA. firstly you should ask him what he likes, just in case you get him something that he doesnt like and just sits in the room collecting dust. Ask him what he wants, seems like a terrible idea but at least you have a list of things you can get for him. I mean a pretty boy with some photos of you guys? and tie a ribbon on top? with sweet notes or a little description on each photo? i mean thats just a mini DIY. But if you wanted to actually buy something, maybe a photo frame with a photo of you guys? xx

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Anonymous said: Hi. Ok my best friend whom I know from the internet, is dating her best friend. Now they've been together for about 2 months, but when she is with him she doesnt feel the same anymore. She doesnt feel like ahe wants to kiss him. And idk her bf so i cant talk to him or someyhin. But he was her beat friend and she loved him so much so i dont want her to ruin their friendshi. What shld she do? Help :c

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If she no longer has feelings for her boyfriend its better off her dumping her boyfriend rather than her boyfriend dumping her if you get what i mean. Its not good to lead someone on if you have no feelings for them, i mean that could seriously hurt their feelings and will lead to serious consequences. Would stand seeing your best friend doing something you know is not good? Stop her before someone does x

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Anonymous said: I think you guys should be more active cause sometimes when i ask for advice, you take days to reply. I love you though xxxxx

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sorry! right now this is the last message that we currently have, so its either it didnt get through, or we already answered it! sorry babe! x 

- cindy 

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Anonymous said: Im in a long distance realtionship. No we're not daring but he's my ex and we are in oove but are not dating, we just act like we're in a relationship. What can i talk with my bf about? Something that keepsmthe conversation going. He even told me when i saw him to open a subject to talk about. Helppp?

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Things that you guys have in common! like for me and my bf we tend to talk about books… no we’re not nerds HAHA, games, shopping. Things that both you guys have in common, i mean surely there are lots of things that you guys have in common! 

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